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Therapy and Me

What if there was a way for you to learn and reflect on your habitual mindsets and ways of relating to your fellow humans? And what if that thing – that way – could somehow help you to hone in on your deep-seated issues and consciously reverse negative thoughts over time? Well, there is such a thing; it’s called therapy.

I know – this is a little far out from my usual topics. But stick with me!

Even people who consider themselves “normal” (although I hate that word, but I’m working with the masses here) can benefit from going to therapy. It’s not all about finding out why you’re depressed – although it has been a giant help to me in managing depression and anxiety. Therapy is about learning more about yourself. You get to reflect on yourself with someone who doesn’t know anything about your life before you walked into their office.

When sitting with a therapist for the first time, a lot of participants will report experiencing “word vomit” all over the place. You tell your therapist that you’ve been feeling tired lately, then you regurgitate the entire argument you had with your husband last night which leads you down a rabbit hole of talking about your father and how you and him always used to butt heads, and then… You see where I’m going with this right? (Also, please note that all of that was just an example haha)

Therapy helps you get there. It can take someone who thought they knew everything about themselves and turn their world inside out with all kinds of new information. And sometimes that’s exactly what we need.

For me, therapy has been transformative. I have discovered layers of my psyche that I never knew existed let alone thought I’d be able to access. I know it sounds weird – sort of like hypnosis when you “wake up” not believing your friends who tell you that you just perfectly acted out the entire first act of Macbeth even though you’ve never even read the play. But it’s true – therapy has been a marvel for me.

If you’ve never been to therapy or if you’ve been out of it for a while, I would strongly encourage you to go. It may take some time to find the right person to sit and talk with, but it’ll be worth it in the long run!

Do you have any shareable experiences with therapy? Let me know in the comments below!

doing what’s right

for you.

Stop trying to please everyone else.

Stop saying “Well, I’ll get to me next week.” Next week never comes.

Stop worrying about upsetting someone else.

What if you go your whole life never doing what you want to do because you think it will make someone else unhappy? Do you think you’re going to feel good about yourself or about your life? Do you think you yourself will be happy?

At the end of the day, you are the only one who has to live with you. You can’t cling to other people when the Grimm Reaper comes calling. You can’t bring them with you to wherever it is you’re supposed to go. So why are you putting your life on hold for them in the first place?

I’m not saying to completely disregard others’ feelings. I’m not saying to stomp all over everyone else and do only for yourself. I’m saying that if there’s something you know you need to do for you, but someone else doesn’t want you to do it – you shouldn’t have to worry about that.

Go for it anyway. Do what right’s by you so that you can open yourself up more fully to others later on. Take it from me, when you’re unhappy with your life or your situation, you’re not going to be thinking about how to best help other people anyway. You’re always going to be wrapped in regrets like a burrito – and not the good kind. I’m talking a 50-cent burrito you bought on the side of the road in a one-stop-light town because you didn’t have time for anything else that day. It’s going to mess you up so bad that it’ll be all you can think about. Don’t do that to yourself. Take the time to order the burrito you actually want from that really nice Mexican restaurant; it’s going to satisfy you so much that you’ll want to help others order one too.

And that’s my analogy for today. Night folks.